a ton of discourse is conceptually fine but in practice a bunch of it can be boiled down to "pleaseee pleaseee let me know some extremely personal information about you so i can know how to judge you as a person ahead of time" because modern era internet you're just expected to disclose everything
tada tadai feel so much more at peace once i realized alot of discourse bothered me not because i was unwoke, but because alot of it comes from people who feel entitled to the information of others online