Подтвердите e-mail

Для публикаций, комментариев, реакций и сообщений подтвердите адрес.

←

Публикация

Предыдущая публикация
Shan Wolf

3️⃣To some, the take away would be "well then, after a certain amount of time, I should just regularly flip out. that'll keep folks interested" but obviously that's a shitty take. For me, I think I need to become more wary of the folks I date, and how "into me" they seem right off the bat.

140
Shan Wolf

4️⃣I'm not blaming anyone for their mental illness (nor am I saying that the only people who want to get with me are themselves mentally ill.) but it *is* a reoccuring pattern that I'd like to break, and that takes decision making and filtering people out in non-ableist ways (if I can)

Обсуждение

Ответы

Shan Wolf

5️⃣This is complicated by the fact that I have weirdly fucked up self esteem, and I can't lie and say I *don't* enjoy the attention. I clearly *do* but I'm also finding it's bad for my mental health overall to have someone be all about me rrriiiight up until they point that they aren't.

Ответ для Shan Wolf
Shan Wolf

6️⃣I try to be communicative about what I want, what I need, what would make me happy, my goals, all of that. I dunno how to talk more about those things without falling into narcissism. So it's a process. It's boundaries. It's noticing patterns and taking active steps to deescalate them.